Mar 17, 2019 • Written by Nicki Behnke
Lies About God's Love
God’s love is unconditional. Insert yawn here. We have heard that a thousand and one times as the words to Jesus Loves Me were etched into our young minds before most of us were old enough to form full sentences.
We nod our heads, throw out a quick “amen” and carry on with our day.
It’s old news even to a newer believer. I mean, of course God loves me and of course it’s a no-matter-what kind of deal. Unconditional, affection without any limitations. And I claim this unfathomably deep love from God to little old me.
And then life begins to happen.......
I hit the snooze and miss my quiet time with the Lord in the morning again...and a voice somewhere deep within me whispers “God would love me more if I had met with Him this morning.”
I receive an e-mail asking me to serve in an additional ministry and the voice whispers again, “God will love me more if you say yes.”
I lose my temper with my kids or spouse and immediately feel regret and still that voice says “If I could just control my anger, God would love me more.”
I skip my workout again and hit up the donut shop instead and the voice inside me whispers “If only I took better care of myself, God would love me more.”
I do that thing again that I have been trying so hard to stop and the whisper is fierce in my ear “If only I could stop, God would love me more.”
I find myself all tied up in worry and that voice states somewhere deep within “if only I could trust God more, then surely His love for me would increase.”
I pray the prayer I have been praying for ages with no sign of breakthrough and think “maybe if I just prayed a little harder, God would love me more grant me a yes.”
Often we claim the truth that God’s love is unconditional, but we live as though we believe that God’s love for us is attached to our performance. That we, in our humanness, can somehow control or maybe even just slightly sway the level of love the Lord God our Father has for us. We may even be unaware that we are doing this because every other relationship we have here on Earth is conditional.
But God’s love is without condition. We can’t change His love for us. It’s consistent, unaffected, unchangeable, and a level line in our lives. Our minds can’t fully comprehend this love that is ours. Scripture is full of evidence of God’s love for us.
1 John 3:1 “How great is the love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that we are!"
Ephesians 3:17-19 “.....And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge - that you may be filled to all the measure of the fullness of God.”
Psalms 36:5 “ Your love, O Lord, reaches to the heavens, your faithfulness to the skies.”
Romans 8:38-39 “ For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.”
Psalm 52:8 “ I trust in God’s unfailing love for ever and ever.”
You see, if we can change God’s love for us (conditional love) then God isn’t God anymore. We would be in control, not Him. It would completely unravel the redemption story of God sending His son whom He loved dearly, down to live among us, to cover our sin so that we have a way back to the Father. He loves us in a way that is based on nothing we did or do but solely on His perfect, unconditional love. The kind of love He displayed for us on the cross. His unconditional love was displayed for us on the cross and makes a way back to the Father for us. Love is the Gospel.
So the next time you miss a quiet time, or lose your cool with a loved one, or say no to that e-mail to serve, or stand in the shadow of an unanswered prayer, or you are tied up in worry push aside that voice that tries to tell you it will affect His love for you. Instead, allow the voice that speaks loudest to your soul claim:
“God loves me and His love for me remains the same.”
God’s love is unconditional.